End of an Era!!

said my relative.. I call him Dada.. he is my cousin sis's hubby.. last weekend he cremated his Dad who succumbed to strokes during a dialysis session.. and this is what he said.. End of an era!!
I was touched when he said that .. yet it is the truth.. you live your whole life thinking and knowing what you believe is true or right .. your lifestyle, your family, your friends, your profession, your colleagues, your neighbors.. your grocer, everything around you pretty much, know you for what you are and then one fine day, u r 'no more'.. maybe u wont have anyone to carry forward your legacy.. oftentimes its a weird feeling that 'one instance when u go from living to dead'.. that instantaneous turn of events.. even saying it makes it something heavy-weight that every single one of us need to bear.. which brings me to the saying - 'life is all about living'.. its impossible to turn back time hence all we can do is move forward.. am sure each one of us do that finally, with everything said and done..

Love and Marriage! Love and Marriage!

'Go - together like a horse and carriage' - Lord knows why I am reminded of this title song from one of the sitcoms - 'Married With Children' on ABC channel. Almost right after I landed in this country and after a couple of years of staying glued to the computer and learning the tricks of the trade.. I was bored.. so started watching these series telecasted in the afternoon - The Nanny, Married with children and such.

Trying to take a direct hit from an onlookers angle here.

Possible permutations: -

1) YOu fall in love and marry and then you think - what a bummer? infatuation? maybe! not always though.. likelihood of this one being a keeper ;) are more..
2) YOu marry then you fall in love - maybe!
3) YOu marry, lifelong unable to love the person you are married to
4) YOu love someone, but marry someone else cause of societal or family pressures
- heartache!!

What does staying married mean to people?

1) Security?
2) Someone by your side to care for you 24/7 no matter what... you would think?
3) How much of love plays a role in marriage?
4) You stick together for the sake of children coming out of that marriage
5) If not for anything else - its just because ------------

famous saying in hindi - 'shaadi hai delhi ke laddo' - 'jo khaye wo pachtaye .. jo na khaye wo bhi pachtaye'..

It completely contradicts the saying - marriage and love goes together like a horse and carriage - Ironically tied/bonded to the carriage.

Two peas in a pod!

A chance encounter brought me face-to-face with 2 sweet twin baby sisters. Not identical twins in any sense but something definitely bonded them together. One followed the other around although personality-wise both stood out as 2 different individuals with well defined characteristics. They played together and were content with each others company. So complete in themselves. Bundle of energy and no different from 2 baby kittens from the same litter - Much like 2 peas in a pod.

Life's NOt a Bed of Roses

You dont get everything laid out for you. You tread the tough terrain and then you get there. Once you do.. sometimes a recap of the past and the route you ended up amazes you. 'Did I do that?' You ask yourself and find the same answer over and over again. Who's there by your side to ascertain its your success or its your failure? You are responsible for it all. Finally its your life - live it or leave it alone!

Let there be love

dont you oftentimes remisce your 1st love? the feelings that came along with the 1st crush or even just a hint of infatuation..
ah!! did u feel the tingle running thru your being @ the thot of the 1st ever!!
:D
I can see that all-knowing smile across ur face
felt like posting something on my blog tonite and here I am..
with time the simplicity of the mere fact of falling in love in your early years changed.. the charm did slowly vanish.. with maturity those pleasant feelings did diminish.. why?
what if you get a whiff of those forgotten feelings now?

Generation Gap

You think you know your elders. Wrong!! theres always a gap in understanding - we call it 'misunderstanding'. They speak from their experiences - circumstances being different, culturally, traditionally and emotionally too. The difference from our gen is we also try and take current circumstances into account.. hardly any reason for them to acknowledge our choices or appreciate them. They have lived a life of contentment, fulfilled their duties well with their angle of seeing things in life. They have a hard time accepting current changes or accepting anything 'now' on its face-value.. be it any new electronic item or a new thought about living life in a certain way in general...I am sure they take everything with a pinch of salt.. We think we understand them.. but maybe we dont see their point.. although it is old and sometimes forgotten maybe it carries more value than we , the new gen, realize.. With changing times perspective take new approaches which probably are hard for them to acknowledge. For instance - 'me time' might sound Greek to them..

I am reminded of my GrandMa - Tv used to be her life. she would have watched all movies beforehand and would give away the whole story including the climax while we watched.. we considered that sweet and never argued with her.. with our parents we end up having a little more audacity to argue though and that arouses all types of sensitivity in them and make them centimental... by the time we realize its too late .. the damage has been done..

My concern in writing this is 'our Gen' - how are we gonna be ven we become old?
lifes like a wheel.. we all have to go thru the same phase.. following our elders footsteps..

Memorial Service

I dread attending one. I do. It has been over 6 yrs now. Still the memories are fresh. What followed has gotten hazy over time cause of stress I believe.. or cause its too painful to remember!!!
The newz of death shakes the Hell out of me. I instantly try to distract myself.
Attended a memorial service yday. Young, dynamic, talented, humble, friendly kid. What was his fault? Why this unfairness to him. We Hindus believe in Karma. Although the body burns up or degenerates the soul travels thru time carrying our legacy and the load of Karma from the past life, with it changing bodies like snake sheds skin and grows a new one. We try to rationalize - 'itni hi kam ayu thi uski'
It was heart rending. I couldnt check myself and the dam was broken. I hardly know the family that well but I could relate to their loss. What goes thru the parents being, is unfathomable. The portrayal of strength against this misfortune, is just the outer 'skin of things'. The world within their heart and mind will never be the same again. So many memories to carry forward.. so many happy, joyous and sad instances along with their son.
One wheel of the family car - gone. Thats how it has been for me all this while. I even tried replacing(a spare tire) - it dint fit. It made me feel every bump on the roads. It wasnt aligned however hard I tried. Some are lucky - they find that perfect fit. Who knows maybe someday.................